after watching the 20/20 special on rihanna, i have a new found respect for her. she made a lot of valid points and seemed very sincere. despite what people are saying like she set this up to promote her album...whatever. that's ignorance.
during the interview she said that, "you don't stop loving someone just like that." and i agree. you can't turn it on and off. however, you can leave a situation before it gets worse. staying only makes it ok for the abuse to happen again.
although i have never been in a physically abusive relationship, i have been in a relationship where i was emotionally abused and i know others who have as well. abuse is abuse in my opinion; it leaves you with scars regardless. to me, being in an emotional abusive relationship is tricky because its like no one can really see your scars unless you let them. so theres room to hide it and act as if things are ok. which makes it easier for you to convince yourself that things will get better or that he won't say or do something like that again to hurt you. where as in a physically abusive situation, the scars are on the surface. make up and cover up's can only hide so much.
its just sad that women and young women have to go thru situations. its unfortunate because it is so easy to get caught up and fall "in love" that pretty soon, you're in too deep. i think that in order to get out of those situations and in order to heal, you have to realize that you have to love yourself. because if you don't, no one else will. period. realize that you are worth more than a broken promise/or a broken arm. its not worth it and that is NOT real love. most of the time, its lust that tricks us into thinking its love.
i know we hear about abuse and read about it all the time but i think when it happens to celebs and those who we see as "invincible" or "untouchable", it makes us realize that they're humans too. and that unfortunately, no one is exempt from pain or heartache. the way we deal with it is what matters....because when you do get to that point where you know better and you see & believe what love is and what its not, you begin to live...
remember, "no one is gonna love you like you love yourself..." -niecy nash
sincerely yours,
nic
I agree that abuse is abuse. It's not cool no matter which gender is perpetrating. I haven't seen the interview, but I don't think Rihanna has a reason to lie about anything, considering the TMZ pic we've seen. She has a right to speak out, especially if she thinks she can help girls who look up to her who might be in a similar situation. I say go for it.
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